Well, today was the day. Finally all my husband's family made it in, so we went up to the hospital and said our goodbyes. Both Ellen and Sarah wanted to be in the room with Grandpa when he passed, so after talking to the doctor about what to expect, I agreed (although I told them they could change their minds at any time.) But Will woke up with a fever today, so he went out to say goodbye and then I took him home. He's been complaining of an upset stomach and I was afraid he would throw up.
Randy says the girls did fine and that it was very peaceful. He said once it was all over, everyone felt relieved and agreed it was the right thing to do. One of his cousins came to the hospital too, which was great.
Dad didn't want a funeral, so we're only having a grave side service on Thursday. His ward will provide a meal afterwards, which is great. My poor guy has been very upset, but today, he seemed to be able to rise above it and just cope. I know it my heart it was the right thing to do, but I am sure going to miss him. Ellen was regretting that she didn't talk to him very much lately. I think for her, she didn't realize how important Grandpa was until he wasn't going to be there any more.
! Soap box moment
One thing I really learned from all this is how important it is to have a will and a living will, or advance directive, and make sure that someone who loves you knows exactly where those are. Even better, that they have a copy. We still haven't found Dad's will, and we're not sure he has one. At least they found his funeral directions that he drew up a couple of years ago when his mother died. I asked my folks to PLEASE get their documents ready and show me and my sister where they are. We need to redo our will. The nurse told us there was another woman going through the very same situation as Dad, but she was only 50 years old. You just never know what can happen and this has been so hard on the family, not knowing what Dad would want.
! Soap box moment over.
And again, thanks so much for all the support and good wishes. It really has made a difference. We are blessed to have so many good friends.
2 comments:
Sometimes the right things are the hardest to do. I'm glad you were all able to be there and say goodbye, and the best part is that it is not goodbye forever.
I'm sorry to hear about your father. We know what you are going through and our prayers are with your family.
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